In a wedding, it’s the bride who is the focal point, but what of the groom? So much energy and attention go into putting together the perfect ensemble for the bride that the groom’s attire ends up getting neglected and what he ends up with is not the best possible attire, but the one second to best. To correct that, what a groom need is a step by step attire tutorial. If you are still at the stage where you are deciding what outfit to wear on your big day, then here is a short guide to help you through this seemingly endless task of assembling the groom’s wedding attire. Pay attention.
A Classic Tux or a Wholly Informal Outfit
The wedding attires of the bride and groom depend largely on the style of the ceremony. For formal evening weddings, a tux is the best pick. An ensemble comprising a classic tuxedo with a tailcoat, matching trousers, and a contrasting shirt is supremely dashing. For a more effortless look, pick something in the way of a normal dinner jacket. Match the trousers but remember to keep the shirt contrasting with the whole ensemble. There are alternatives that are even more casual. In certain weddings, grooms are seen saying their vows in beach shirts and linen pants. If yours is that kind of a wedding which is completely informal, then that’s an option too. Other alternatives are flannels and linens topped with a blazer that works perfectly for informal weddings.
Colors for the Groom
Colours are important not just because they decide how you look, but because they also have a bearing on the visuals of the ceremony. A groom in warm colours looks confident whereas, in light colours, he looks artistic. Go for flashy tones to look quirky if that’s more akin to your personality. At any rate, the colour scheme of the groom’s attire should be in perfect synchrony with that of the bride’s. It doesn’t, however, mean that if the bride decides to wear white, you have to wear white too, or that you are supposed to pick the opposite of it. There are no such set rules. Your aim, as it is, should be to find colours that you look sharp in. A black tux, a white jacket, a grey suit, a navy blazer, etc., are considered classics, but feel free to step outside the box. A white shirt is something that never goes wrong, but you can experiment with your colours when you are going with lighter outerwear.
A Tie or a Bow
This is one of the biggest dilemmas of a groom, a bow or a tie. There is a simple rule that puts an end to this common misery. If you are going with a suit and a waistcoat, a bow tie is an elegant finish to the ensemble. Alternatively, if it’s a semi-formal attire with a tux and all its fixings, a tie makes the perfect companion. For daytime weddings, striped ties are great. But if neither of these seems fit for your attire, a cravat or ascot could be a worthy diversion. Those look great too with wedding suits.
Metals and Blings
Not many metals make a part of a groom’s final wedding attire. There are of course the men’s wedding rings which we will come to later. First, let’s talk about cufflinks. Some like to wear them, others not so much. For both formal and semiformal weddings, cufflinks are strongly recommended. They do a fantastic job accenting the outfit. Plain metal, enamelled, gem-studded, the choices are countless. As long as you follow the one rule of matching cufflinks which is aimed for contrast, you are good. You don’t want an especially flashy effect, but a visible one. For rings, match it with your wedding day outfit. Silver and gold are the prime contenders here. A plain yellow gold ring is the best match possible for a navy suit, and a platinum band for a black one. Rose gold has the versatility to go with either.
Remember that if it’s your suit that makes you the focus of attention, it is your accessories that stand you apart. But the strange thing is, a groom’s shoes should not be strikingly different from his groom’s men. That’s right, your wedding day shoes should match not only your attire but also your men. That does not mean that you have to get identical shoes, but something that is in close coordination with theirs makes it look grand.
Pocket Square or a Pocket Flower
It is not easy to decide between a pocket square and a pocket flower. It’s a tough choice because both fit seamlessly with a groom’s attire. A pocket square is indispensable to a suit at a formal wedding, but a pocket flower is what adds that special touch to it. Well, how about both? Set a silk kerchief in the breast pocket and pin a nice rose with some baby’s breath on the lapel. That’s a fine combination unless you are sold on pocket flowers in which case you have to give up the pocket square.
Beard or No Beard
Facial hair is something you want to leave for the last. What kind of look do you want for the wedding? More importantly, what kind of look goes best with your ensemble? A little scruff goes a long way in making a groom look extra handsome. You can also grow a beard because that’s in fashion too. Make sure to get it conditioned and trimmed before the day for a polished look. A clean-shaven look is what most grooms feel safe to go with because it’s both classy and smart.
Talk to your hairstylist, if possible, show them a picture of your outfit or describe to them how your attire for the day is going to be. Based on that, style your hair long or short or however you see fit.