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Muslim Men And Love| Book Review Salaam, Love 

Muslim Men in Love

Everyone I mean everyone is on a dating app, even Muslim Men.  Non-married,  Divorced, and the young and single men who are dodging their mother’s suggestions are looking for love to day. Can you blame them?

Ladies and Gentlemen, you will find them on dating apps like Bumble which are really not halal and what you could call halal sites like   Muzmatch and HalfOurDeen.  Yet, what if you are not ready to get serious?  Which one is for you and how do you deal with your need for human contact? How does a Modern Muslim find love in today’s world?

Love In the Modern Muslim Society

Yet, what if you are not ready to get serious?  Which one is for you and how do you deal with your need for human contact?  If you are married what is married life like for modern Muslims?

Muslim Men And Love| Book Review Salaam, Love 

This is a tuff question for both Muslim men and women.  At the end of the day, there is always someone who is looking to get serious and married at the end of a few dates. We all are human and do not always live by the book.   Many of today’s Muslims might not always follow the traditional track to find love and do not want to get married the old fashion way.  That is so Victorian. Many of us have adopted this style of thinking and believe that sex is a sin.  Nevertheless, still have a boyfriend, girlfriend and have sex.  Omitting the fact that the feel some kinda way if they are not married or do they?

Muslim Men in Love

These thoughts and question lead me to dig deeper into the subject of love in the Muslim community today. I read two books Love InshAllah and Salaam Love. Both books address what it is like to be an American Muslim in Love, Sex, and Intimacy.  A subject many may think might be too taboo.  Salaam Love  American Muslim Men on Love, Sex, and Intimacy were particularly interesting because most stories are pre-dating apps.  Aat the same time, it was interesting to read how men felt and how they dealt with different situations.

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From the editors of the groundbreaking anthology Love, InshAllah comes a provocative new exploration of the most intimate parts of Muslim men’s lives. 

 
Muslim men are stereotyped as either oversexed Casanovas willing to die for seventy-two virgins in heaven or controlling, big-bearded husbands ready to rampage at the hint of dishonor. The truth is, there are millions of Muslim men trying to figure out the complicated terrain of love, sex, and relationships just like any other American man.

 

Muslim Men And Love| Book Review Salaam, Love 

In Salaam, Love, Ayesha Mattu and Nura Maznavi provide a space for American Muslim men to speak openly about their romantic lives, offering frank, funny, and insightful glimpses into their hearts—and bedrooms. The twenty-two writers come from a broad spectrum of ethnic, racial, and religious perspectives—including Orthodox, cultural, and secular Muslims—reflecting the strength and diversity of their faith community and of America.

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By raising their voices to share stories of love and heartbreak, loyalty and betrayal, intimacy and insecurity, these Muslim men are leading the way for all men to recognize that being open and honest about their feelings is not only okay—it’s intimately connected to their lives and critical to their happiness and well-being.

Muslim Men And Love| Book Review Salaam, Love 

When you hit a certain age and or are divorced with baggage in the Muslim community love can be a hard pill to swallow.   It was also touching to read the stories of how men deal with problems in the marriage, infertility, and illness.  In most cases, the gentlemen returned to Islam.   There are also chapters in the book about true love and how wonderful it can be when you find the right one.  To the love, most religions don’t want to talk about.  The Muslim gay community is thriving.  One story discusses dating apps and how one young man learns from an older gay man on how to deal with being Muslim and gay.

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Books like these allow you to enter the world of someone else who might have gone through a similar story when looking for love as a Muslim in the new millennium. Sometimes you can’t always keep it on the halal tip.  One chapter can give you insight on how to deal with life today as a Muslim in Love. With marriage solutions to problems and ideas on how to get through this Dunya. and at the end of the day, the most important is how you treat your wife.  This a great read if you want a peek into the lifestyle and learn something from a book.

 

 

 

About the author

Charlotte is an urban New Yorker who has lived in London, Paris & Morocco. She has an MBA in Management and Economics of Luxury Brands and Fashion and her BFA from the New School.
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